If we haven't met (and I hope someday we do), my name is Rachel and I'm a grief and healing expert. I've dedicate my life to learning how to heal after loss and teaching others how to heal too.
I'm also a boy mom, avid tea enthusiast, and wannabe world traveler. I grew up in a small town in Southern California called Ojai and no matter how far you take me out of Ojai you can't take the Ojai out of me. I love to cook, the beach is my happy place, and nothing is more important to me than family.
As wonderful as my life is today, it's had some indescribably heartbreaking times - the kind that left a mark and changed me forever. The good news is, I learned I could choose how I was changed even if I couldn't choose what happened. That realization has changed my life even more than my losses have.
I'll never forget what it felt like to be where you are now - overwhelmed by grief, confused by bad advice, discouraged by traditional therapy, and frustrated with unhelpful support groups. Quite frankly, I was losing hope. But I didn't stay in that place and neither do you.
Over a decade later, I know healing after loss is absolutely possible and the best decision I ever made. I can help you get there too. I'll show you every one of the tools, skills, and insights I acquired on my healing journey and walk with you every step of the way.
Healing is possible, dear friend. I can show you how. If you want to know more about my story, you can read it here.
Healing isn’t only possible for other people, it’s possible for you too. You don’t have to depend on fate or luck to heal from really hard things. Healing from loss is a choice, not chance. That doesn’t make it easy, but it does make it possible, and that's really good news for your broken heart. No matter what you’ve experienced in the past, healing can be in your future.
1. Healing is possible
Just because every healing journey is unique does not mean you have to walk it alone. Unbearable things become a bit more bearable with someone by your side. You were made for relationship - especially in hard times. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or pull in a support system. Let others walk with you. Your heart will benefit greatly and so will theirs.
Eating healthy, nourishing food and taking restorative supplements are two of the most powerful tools available to support your healing journey. Healing is undermined despite all other efforts if your physical body is depleted. Eating to heal is essential and easier than you think. Your emotional well-being will thrive when your physical health is priority.
Everything doesn't happen for a reason. Yes, I said it. It's about time someone did. The purpose of your pain isn’t revealed to you as a spectator in your own life, but created by you as the author of your own heart. Pain itself does not hold some hidden good. You decide the purpose of your pain by your response to it. What you DO with your pain is what matters.
Pain can only be transmitted or transformed - there is no neutral gear for pain. When you heal your heart you become an agent of change and a beacon of hope to others. Your courage fills other hurting hearts with courage. Your example proves healing is possible. You are doing the world a favor when you choose healing over hurting. You truly become a light in someone else's darkness.